Archive for September, 2009
Couples That Play Together…the Thrill of Romantic Games
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Couples communication and a departure from our normal program of information. We’re diving into the realms of romantic board games.. Al designed to spice up your couples communication apparently…Let’s see now..Can we also speak in tongues ?
If you were to name one thing in your romantic life that gives you a chance to reveal tender thoughts to your partner, hear how your sweetheart feels about you, all while setting the stage for some deep intimacy, what would it would be?
When you are looking to spice up your “foreplay”, consider romantic board games! These games are provocative and sensual, as foreplay is supposed to be, but also offer a lot more.
Romance games lead you down a multi-lane path of discovery, communication, openness and yes, great sex with your spouse. We’ve found that they’re an ingenious way to build your relationship, stimulate exchanges, frolic freely and explore sexual desires.
The intention is to create a safe, comfortable place where the two of you can explore areas not usually discussed. Several of these games have a question and answer format, as well as specific activities to do with or for your partner. The questions require that you give real thought to who you are and what you want in your relationship.
You will most likely hear things that have not been voiced before.
Play can be instructive and creative, like when we were kids, with no agenda, other than being together and having fun. You’ll feel trust and intimacy growing as the game takes form and allows for a wonderful exchange.
You can have a delightful time with a variety of games, many innovatively designed to promote both physical as well as emotional intimacy. Many of the boards are constructed so that sections can be flipped, depending on your die throw, to pose a provocative question or suggest a loving, sensual action.
Moving back and forth between these stimulating activities gave us several hours of luscious play and intimate conversation.
Make sure that you have a nice block of uninterrupted time, so arrange for the kids to be at a play date or a sleep-over. It would be great to take one of these games with you on a quick weekend getaway or on your next vacation. Surprise your sweetheart with it when you get to your destination!
Then, light some fragrant candles, spread some rose petals or a silk throw across the bed or on the floor, and perhaps pour a glass of wine for the two of you and then lay the game board with pieces out between you.
• Take your time. There are, of course, rules and guidelines. Don’t be discouraged at the thought of getting bogged down by some kind of instruction manual. The guidelines are pretty straightforward and easy to follow. It would be easy to rush through and get to the hot end action, but you might miss out on some wonderful information about each other along the way.
• Be open and observant. Pay attention to what your partner is saying, how they are responding and what gets them really excited.
• Let go. No need for expectations or control. Put your usual role(s) aside and trust that your love and willingness to embrace each other will lead to greater pleasures and deeper understandings.
• No Judgment. This is exploration at its best, a learning experience destined to increase rapport and bring you closer.
• Have enormous amounts of fun. No explanation needed.
Let the games begin!
Bring play and passion into your relationship. Be creative and adventurous as you romance your sweetheart. Bring the excitement of romantic games into your relationship and experience how they can spice up your love life.
Jewel Kinch
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Marriage Communication and The Top Five Reasons to Get Marriage Counseling
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Whether you’re having problems in your marriage or just want to have better mariage communication, marriage counseling can be one way to do this. A counselor can provide an objective ear and advice for couples who are struggling in their relationship and even for those who are doing fine, but want to ensure they don’t encounter any deep-seated problems in the future.
There are a number of reasons to get marriage communication skills; in this article we’ll look at five of the top reasons you may want to improve your marriage communication skills, or at least consider couples counseling.
One, marriage counseling can not only acts as a form of healing for troubled marriages; it can also act as a preventative measure for many large problems that may loom in a couple’s future. Whether or not you feel you need it, marriage counseling is worth looking into if you’re having problems in your marriage, or even if you’re a couple simply looking to cement your relationship more before you marry.
Two, marriage counseling can help couples find a number of workable solutions that may help their marriage. From infidelity to simple communication problems, a good therapist can help you figure out how to beat the odds and begin to heal your relationship.
Three, it is always helpful to have the ear of someone objective and distanced from your problems. Friends and family members may make good comforters and sounding boards, but they are necessarily biased. An objective therapist sees both sides and attempts to work with you to reconcile them.
Four, you married the person you’re with because you loved them; no matter what they’ve done, it’s worth trying at least once to save. To this affect, a therapist can help you determine how much your vested, and indeed, whether you truly want to be with or without them.
Five, if you have children, getting better marriage communication skill offers an alternative option to immediately divorcing or separating. While some marriages simply don’t work and won’t no matter what, an equal number suffer from misunderstandings, lack of trust and numerous other obstacles; if you have children, these problems are compounded. Marriage counseling can be an excellent option for figuring out one, if you can save your marriage, and two, how to handle questions, concerns and problems your children may have.
Marriagemax.com is an alternative marriage advice website created and run by relationship expert Mort Fertel since 2004. It covers a broad range of marriage topics and offers advice and ideas for helping out your marriage.
Kausik Dutta
http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/top-five-reasons-to-get-marriage-counseling-109237.html
Relationship Communication
Posted by: | CommentsThere are 12 barriers to relationship communication that will strain the relationship to breaking point.Thomas Gordon came up with these 12 roadblocks if you want satisfying and fulfilling relationships.
1. Criticizing. Criticism involves judgmental states that usually put down a person. “Don’t do it that way”, “You’re wrong”, “You’re not very good at…”, and “You need to lose weight” are a few simple criticisms. We think criticism changes people, though it only reveals our own problems. Kill this barrier before it kills your relationships.
2. Labeling. Labels are names. An extreme form of labels is name-calling. “You’re a jerk”, “You are silly”, and “I think you’re mean” are some examples of labeling. Labeling is a barrier to communication because it categorizes people. It assumes people to have characteristics and destroys uniqueness that makes an enjoyable relationship.
3. Diagnosing. A diagnosis is one of the more complex barriers to effective communication. It involves reading into a person’s behavior. I call it “playing the amateur psychologist”. Some examples of the diagnosing barrier are: “You’re just jealous about…”, “You need to be happier”, and “Stop trying to antagonize me.”
4. Praising. People are always surprised when they hear praise is a communication barrier. Praise is not always a barrier because it depends on how it is given. Praise is so often poorly given as it makes people – especially children – dependent on receiving verbal rewards. “You’re a good boy”, “I love you for doing what you did”, and “You’re a lovely person because you think about me”. Learn to praise a person’s behavior, and be specific, to avoid evaluative praise and making people dependent on your praise.
5. Ordering. Orders are controlling statements to get people doing something. They are akin to dictatorship. “Go wash the dishes”, “Stop complaining”, and “Stop fighting with…” Orders force people to comply based on authoritative power. The result is resistant change and resentment. It is very common for people to rebel against orders so they regain their freedom. Psychologists call this “psychological reactance”
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6. Threatening. A threat is similar to an order, except it has emphasis on punishment. “Go wash the dishes or I won’t cook for you tomorrow night”, “Stop complaining or you’ll be sent to your room”, “Stop fighting with… or you’ll be grounded”. Just like orders, threats create fear, temporary results, and resentment – while killing a relationship.
7. Questioning. How could questioning be a barrier to effective communication? Like praise, there are types of questioning that make it a roadblock to good relationship communication. Rhetorical questions is one common form of poor questioning. Examples include, “Why do you disobey me?” “Why do you always do wrong?” and “What about my needs? You constantly ignore them.”
These are 7 of 12 barriers to effective communication. When you overcome all 12 barriers to effective communication, you communicate openly, intimately, understand you’re partner – all the while creating change in your relationships.
By Joshua Ubergang
How To Ensure Effective Communication in the Workplace
Posted by: | CommentsHere is something I came across recently on ezine articles….It gives a very basic overview of some of the skills that are required so that you have effective communication in the workplace
Communication sounds easy, doesn’t it? However, it can be very difficult, especially when we are dealing with people we don’t know very well. Not knowing someone well can mean you don’t always know how to speak with them. This can be the main problem in effective dialogue in the workplace.
Coupled with that is the fact that often at work you are talking for different reasons to those which you commonly deal with in other areas of life, and these bring with them their own problems.
‘Workplace communication’ covers different disciplines such as marketing, public relations, management etc. All these forms of interaction are aimed at different audiences and requiring different skills. You will have to talk with people you work with; they could be managed by you, be your co-workers, or they could be your managers. Communication with each of these groups demands different skills.
There may be the added complication of language and cultural differences which affect how you must interact within the workplace.
Also, a company has to deal with people outside its organization, such as suppliers, retailers, customers and prospective clients. This is another skill set entirely which complicates the issue of effective relations in the workplace.
Sometimes the communication will need to be on an individual basis; sometimes with groups of people – and of course, this interaction, especially with so many customers and clients, will often not be face-to-face communication.
With so many different and competing demands upon workplace communication, you do really need to plan a sound strategy if you are a senior manager of your workplace, and if you aren’t a senior manager, but you know that your workplace does not have a communication strategy, suggest one.
There are several ways of drawing up a plan for effective communication in the workplace, and you can create a plan which is applied to a particular project, or to your whole business on a quarterly or annual basis, whichever you judge to be best for your particular workplace.
However, all plans for effective communication in the workplace need to cover the following areas:
1. Objectives
These objectives should be based upon your organization’s needs. Communication strategies should serve these needs, not vice versa. Think of how communication can help your company achieve what it needs to achieve.
2. Audience
An effective communications strategy always identifies the different groups of people with whom you will need to communicate. They may all need to be dealt with and approached differently.
3. Messages
It’s important for a company to be consistent in its message so clients learn to recognize it and to trust it. An effective communications strategy will cover all the messages that your company needs to give out and how different parts of the message will be emphasized to the different target groups.
4. Tools and activities
Your communications strategy should identify the tools and activities which are most appropriate for getting across a particular message. e.g. an annual report or an e-mail newsletter.
5. Resources and time-scales
You should plan to make sure that you have the money and resources you need to effectively deliver a message and you should know when that message will be delivered as the rest of your company communication and business rests upon this communication being effective.
You should think about carrying out an audit to determine how well you already communicate both within and outside your organization.
Effective interaction in the workplace is therefore all about planning and adapting your company’s message to improve your communications strategy and get your messages across as well as you possibly can. Your business depends upon that effective communication in the workplace.
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