My fiance and I are complete opposites. I am a go-getter and an extrovert. He, on the other hand is quiet and reserved. Sometimes, I wish he’d communicate and talk more to me ..instead of me trying to guess what is inside his head all the time. I have begun to wonder if it is to do with maturity even. But, sometimes it drives me mad as I feel it is important to talk in relationships.
Also – I am very driven and ambitious in my career and he is a lot more laid-back. I admire men who are ambitious and want to be big achievers and sometimes I don’t admire his ‘lazy’, ‘content-with-life’ attitude.
Is there anything I can do to help this relationship?
this can be a big issue, communication is key is relationships, my parents were unhappily married 27 yrs (stayed together for us) and the biggest problem was lack of communication, my mom loved entertaining people and it got to the point she would not even have anyone over because she was embarresed that my dad would not engage anyone in communication, etc.
i also just watched my brother in laws marriage fall apart due to lack of communication. It IS a big deal.
However, in each of the two examples I described-each person has found someone else with whom they CAN communicate! So there is hope!
My advice is to go to pre martial consouling (my fiancee and I are going even though we are not having any problems-just for good measure). I highly suggest it, the could very well give you some great suggestions on opening up the doors of communication.
Also, try sitting down with your fiance, turn off the tv, your phones, the radio, and just talk! about anything! My fiancee and I do this atleast a few times a week, and it always leads into hours of dicussion.
Lastly, a piece of advice that my mom gave me, you can’t change someone. Don’t go into a marriage expecting him to change or thinking "oh if I just talk more he will start" you need to do cousuling and get this figured out, and if you can’t…the hard but honest truth may be that you too just arn’t compatible (I know you don’t want to hear that, but I just honestly think that communication is number 1 in a relationship, you need to be able to talk about anything and everything)
Good luck, seek some outside assistance and give it time and a great deal of effort. I know you love him so try to make this work! Best of luck
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