Many people associate NLP with manipulation.And they are right !

NLP IS about manipulation.

NLP is about getting the results that you want from life without having to feel like you need to apologise for being successful.

There !

I’ve said it. I have finally come out and told the truth instead of pussyfooting around.

If you’re going to play any other game would you play to lose ? Hell no ! And why should you.

Do you want the athletes and sports teams that you support to win ? Probably…And that’s why you follow them and support them. Because their winning inspires you.

NLP is about getting what you want from life and doing it in a winning way, as opposed to a whining way.

Let’s be straight here. If you want to play the game of life in a half hearted way that’s fine. Just stop pretending that you “want to be successful”.

People who want success go for it.

Before we go any further let me define “manipulation“.

Manipulation is derived from the Latin word “manus” which means hand, fist or team. How I interpret this, is that Manipulation is taking a hand in creating teams or circumstances that increase your chances of being successful.

If you are doing something different than arranging your life to be successful there is medication and therapy available.

For those that are actively pursuing the good things in life for you, your family and those you care about…there is NLP

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I came across a video on YouTube today.

Sounds ordinary enough…?

Or is there more to this email ?

What’s the…underlying reason that caused me to sit down and write to you today…

Well, it’s like this…

For a long time I have avoided being political. ( mainly as a result of being well and truly stomped on by the system in the past  whenever I was saying stuff they didn’t like.) 

More details later.

( maybe…!)

Just so you know, one of my deepest beliefs and values is that we MUST learn to cooperate better if we are to survive as a species.

Please note the use of the word survive here. And NO this is not just some impassioned plea to save the whales or any other single species.

This goes much deeper.
It’s all about the deep psychological shifts that humankind needs to make to get to the next level.

We have a behaviour problem here on planet Earth.
And I hate to be the one to tell you but it’s also a choice problem.

As a species and as individuals, both you and me chose a behaviour that was damaging to our home. Our planet.
And for a while we chose to ignore that because we were told that government and the financial system has the answers.

And we believed them.

BUT the truth is…

Our current behaviour is not useful for the long term sustainability of life. 

Human life on planet earth is an option.

That’s all it is. An option.

You are an evolutionary choice…

That’s tough to consider but I believe it’s true nonetheless.

You are at a decision point in your life.

We all are.

Nature doesn’t care for your future here any more than it cared for the future of T Rex.

The difference between you and T Rex

is that you have a brain that’s capable of creating choice AND you are still here.

NOW …

at the moment we have systems in place that we use to run or manage our environment.

These systems are set up on the basis of competition, in just such a way, that there is inequality.

That inequality results in over 1 billion people living in poverty and starvation.

BUT the problem isn’t a lack of food to feed them with…

It goes deeper…

It’s all about beliefs and your psychology. The shift from a competition to a cooperation mindset.

And cooperation goes beyond mere sharing and management of resources.

Cooperation is and must become humanity’s belief system. A value system.

A way of being for all of humanity, regardless  of race, creed, financial status or any other BS idea you got taught about why other people are different to you.

Cooperation needs to be part of our conscious psychology as a species.

Think about the times when you are not happy…

Aren’t they almost always times when there is a conflict going on.

It is your responsibility to take control of your environment which starts with your internal environment.

Your beliefs about what is possible.

Control of your environment includes controlling what you think, feel and do.

Despite what you may have been told… you… are the only person who has control over your beliefs and thoughts.

Those who tell you that you have no choice… USUALLY HAVE A VESTED INTEREST in keeping you right where you are !.

(“That’s your place.You better get used to it”.  “Hey we were always poor, dumb, downtrodden”. “Your side of the family was/ is radee radee radee”,)
All of the above are just BELIEFS.

Other peoples beliefs… about what is right for you. And you do not have to accept their beliefs.
I mean it positively flies in the face of what’s written in the Constitution.

You have choice about what you will believe. What you can believe.

Yeah, I know it may sound difficult . But that’s just another belief.

Another idea that YOU have about…

taking control of your own thoughts. Taking control of your life and destiny.

Taking control of your environment

But if Tony Robbins can do it then so can you!

If I can do it, so can you ! 

Doesn’t mean you have to be a total master at it straight away.

It just means that you’re willing to believe it’s posssible to change what you believe.

If you are one of the few who don’t think it’s possible to change what you believe, from whatever you currently hold in your mind to something else, please do not read any further.

Instead consider…

what causes you to have such a limiting view.

Who or what told you to  believe that you are powerless over your own mind and where THAT belief came from for them.

You can always hit the back button / unsubscribe.

I will be upset, knowing that yet another human being just gave up on possibility, themself and the whole future of the planet.

The rest of us will ask ourselves the question  “Is there something more we can do to assist ?”

If you truly believe you are incapable of changing that one tiny belief don’t even bother to get out of bed tomorrow.

Why waste energy ?

Speaking of which, for those of you who are still here with me. ..What does get you out of bed ?

What is the motivator for you that shifts you from that warmth and comfort to whatever you do when you get up.?

Once you are aware of that then you have tapped into the most powerful motivation on the planet.

So, spend some time really getting in touch with WHY you do what you do.

I have considered for some time how do we transition from where we are now to where we need to be as a species.

As part of our ecosystem.

We are after all, at a very basic level,  just another item in the intricate biological soup that makes up life on this planet.

You of course are also infinite possibility in evolutionary motion.

You may be curious about what this all has to do with communication.

You can also be curious about How you can create the levels of cooperation needed to achieve survival.

Why did I just mentioned survival again?

Did you ever consider that perhaps, getting cooperation is the whole reason that you communicate in the first place ?

I mean why else did we go to all that troube of creating and refining language if not to get better cooperation with others ?

We are a social species and social implies cooperation and to do that we have to communicate clearly.

Think about it ! If you don’t want or need something you don’t speak or wave or do anything else to communicate with others.

Even a smile can fulfill the need to comfort or reassure another person (or yourself.)

So while you’re thinking about what moves you from your bed every day I’d also invite you to really consider what results you want to get from communicating.

Consider also if your communication is getting you the results that you really really want. The environment you want. Internally and externally.

And if the answer is YES then
Watch…

If on the other hand the answer is NO then
Watch…

And by the time you have completed watching this you will know why I want you to be motivated. Why you need to be motivated. And most important of all. Why you need to believe that change is possible….

The tools for creating the necessary upgrades in awareness are about to come out of the lab here…

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Being awesome…! How long do you have left ?

This video of a TED talk will show you yet another way of improving your communication skills with your self….

simply click and listen….fascinating !

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1.) Advertisements are continually cheapening human interaction. Example: the man who is talking about "finding his queen" and we think he is talking about a woman but no he is talking about a sofa.
2.) Face to face interaction has become less and less important in society. We are all on our phones, watching TV or on our computers sending text messages or on facebook.
3.) Everywhere you look people are not looking at the person they are talking to, they are too busy with gadgets. I mean who here has been annoyed becuase the person they were talking to was texting?
4. We now have more ways than ever to communicate but we are farther apart than we have ever been.

So basically my question is, Do you think technology is good or bad for humans?

It’s certainly not destroying human communication. In fact, in terms of breadth and scope, and in terms of the number of people an average person might communicate in the course of a day, it’s increased human communication hugely. It is, however, causing a raid development in human communication.

You note that we seldom seem to speak face to face anymore. That’s certainly true, and yet how many more people per day do you think our ancestors spoke to face to face than we do today? As a percentage, surely a lot more, but in absolute numbers? I’d suggest about the same. We talk to more people, from much wider areas than our ancestors ever dreamed of.

You note that people that we do talk to often are also using gadgets. I have been annoyed by this trend, but I think of it as a part of that evolution I mentioned before. We tend to multitask now, more than ever. I’m not sure that frenetic pace is a good thing, however.

Finally, your draw a conclusion that we are now farther apart than ever before. I’m not sure I agree, and I don’t see any evidence to support your conclusion directly. I have internet pen pals from all around the world, and in some ways, I think the ease of long range communication has brought us closer together than was ever possible before. I talk to people daily who have completely different takes upon world events, based on their culture and upbringing, and I think that variety of opinion is very enlightening.

At any rate, we are having to evolve. Our modes of behavior, our traditions are changing, and while it styresses those of us who are comfortable with the old, traditional ways of doing things, in just a few short decades, most of us will be gone, and our children will be lamenting the changes they see.

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Our well-being is about having meaning in our lives, developing as a person, and living a productive life. We tend to connect in different ways to our family and friends. Relationships in all parts of our lives contribute to our well-being. Through our relationships, we are sustained in our personal growth and development. Our relationships provide us with the support we need to grow and to handle challenges we can face. In relationships, people like, respect, and trust each other. These are paramount foundations to a healthy realtionship. We can accept each other for who we are, including the ways people grow and change over time.
For example, support and confidence we get from others helps mold us into a positive part of society. This can be seen from the support that we can get from our family, whether our family is primarily one or two parents, or other family members. Strong support that individuals receive from others is essential to our well-being and therefore must be strengthened.
Having positive relationships with others is essential for our well-being. Being able to communicate with and listen to others will contribute to a healthier relationship. Being able to trust others is also important in relationships because trust impacts everyone– It affects the quality of every relationship, every communication, and every effort in which we are engaged. As social workers, we need to strengthen the communication and interactions between families. If relationships are strengthened on all levels by being able to positively communicate with eachother and respect eachother in a caring and trustful way, then all families can contribute to eachother’s well-being– mentally, emotionally, and physically. (I tried to reword the last sentence to make it less run-on, but it still seems a little wordy.) Individuals can have productive, happy, and meaningful lives as a result of having stronger relationships with one another. We all have something to contribute to our well-being and our overall happiness.

There you go. You may want to strengthen the closing paragraph a bit, it doesn’t really flow as well as the rest of the essay. But really nice job. Usually its best to have more than one editor, so fix what you like and have someone else edit it again. Good Luck!!! ^_^

Updated in a new 2nd edition, \”Interpersonal Messages\” stresses the importance of politeness, cultural awareness and ethical principles within daily interpersonal interactions by engaging students with its lively and accessible insight to interpersonal skill development. By creating a foundation for the reader, \”Interpersonal Messages\” gives room to understand the concepts of interpersonal communication and to develop the skills necessary to apply what they\’ve learned. With a focus on skill-building, this book helps the reader to understand how to master interpersonal communication and relationship skills.

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A Hot Affair Game Kheper Games. A HOT AFFAIR…with your partner! This hot relationship game is a fun way to keep communication going between couples and allow them to try new and exciting intimate actions. After the first few years of romance, couples tend to find that naughty lingerie and nights exploring each other\’s erogenous zones can be forgotten and replaced by arguments over whose turn it is to buy the frozen peas. A Hot Affair brings back the art of seduction, laughter and lust through a game so neither of you needs to be the instigator. It really does lead to the feeling that you are having an affair… but with your partner! The other great thing about the game is it can be played on a number of different levels, depending on how you both feel. If you just feel like a romantic and fun night, you can play with the first two levels; if you are both feeling horny, just shuffle the fantasy cards and go for it! With over 400 ideas at three progressive levels and 50 fantasies, the game can be enjoyed over and over!

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