Couples communication and a departure from our normal program of information. We’re diving into the realms of romantic board games.. Al designed to spice up your couples communication apparently…Let’s see now..Can we also speak in tongues ?

If you were to name one thing in your romantic life that gives you a chance to reveal tender thoughts to your partner, hear how your sweetheart feels about you, all while setting the stage for some deep intimacy, what would it would be?

When you are looking to spice up your “foreplay”, consider romantic board games! These games are provocative and sensual, as foreplay is supposed to be, but also offer a lot more.

Romance games lead you down a multi-lane path of discovery, communication, openness and yes, great sex with your spouse. We’ve found that they’re an ingenious way to build your relationship, stimulate exchanges, frolic freely and explore sexual desires.

The intention is to create a safe, comfortable place where the two of you can explore areas not usually discussed. Several of these games have a question and answer format, as well as specific activities to do with or for your partner. The questions require that you give real thought to who you are and what you want in your relationship.

You will most likely hear things that have not been voiced before.

Play can be instructive and creative, like when we were kids, with no agenda, other than being together and having fun. You’ll feel trust and intimacy growing as the game takes form and allows for a wonderful exchange.

You can have a delightful time with a variety of games, many innovatively designed to promote both physical as well as emotional intimacy. Many of the boards are constructed so that sections can be flipped, depending on your die throw, to pose a provocative question or suggest a loving, sensual action.

Moving back and forth between these stimulating activities gave us several hours of luscious play and intimate conversation.

Make sure that you have a nice block of uninterrupted time, so arrange for the kids to be at a play date or a sleep-over. It would be great to take one of these games with you on a quick weekend getaway or on your next vacation. Surprise your sweetheart with it when you get to your destination!

Then, light some fragrant candles, spread some rose petals or a silk throw across the bed or on the floor, and perhaps pour a glass of wine for the two of you and then lay the game board with pieces out between you.

• Take your time. There are, of course, rules and guidelines. Don’t be discouraged at the thought of getting bogged down by some kind of instruction manual. The guidelines are pretty straightforward and easy to follow. It would be easy to rush through and get to the hot end action, but you might miss out on some wonderful information about each other along the way.

• Be open and observant. Pay attention to what your partner is saying, how they are responding and what gets them really excited.

• Let go. No need for expectations or control. Put your usual role(s) aside and trust that your love and willingness to embrace each other will lead to greater pleasures and deeper understandings.

• No Judgment. This is exploration at its best, a learning experience destined to increase rapport and bring you closer.

• Have enormous amounts of fun. No explanation needed.

Let the games begin!

Bring play and passion into your relationship. Be creative and adventurous as you romance your sweetheart. Bring the excitement of romantic games into your relationship and experience how they can spice up your love life.

Jewel Kinch
http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/couples-that-play-togetherthe-thrill-of-romantic-games-97762.html

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Whether you’re having problems in your marriage or just want to have better mariage communication,  marriage counseling can be one  way to do this. A counselor can provide an objective ear and advice for couples who are struggling in their relationship and even for those who are doing fine, but want to ensure they don’t encounter any deep-seated problems in the future.

There are a number of reasons to get marriage communication skills; in this article we’ll look at five of the top reasons you may want to improve your marriage communication skills, or at least consider couples counseling.

One, marriage counseling can not only acts as a form of healing for troubled marriages; it can also act as a preventative measure for many large problems that may loom in a couple’s future. Whether or not you feel you need it, marriage counseling is worth looking into if you’re having problems in your marriage, or even if you’re a couple simply looking to cement your relationship more before you marry.

Two, marriage counseling can help couples find a number of workable solutions that may help their marriage. From infidelity to simple communication problems, a good therapist can help you figure out how to beat the odds and begin to heal your relationship.

Three, it is always helpful to have the ear of someone objective and distanced from your problems. Friends and family members may make good comforters and sounding boards, but they are necessarily biased. An objective therapist sees both sides and attempts to work with you to reconcile them.

Four, you married the person you’re with because you loved them; no matter what they’ve done, it’s worth trying at least once to save. To this affect, a therapist can help you determine how much your vested, and indeed, whether you truly want to be with or without them.

Five, if you have children, getting better marriage communication skill offers an alternative option to immediately divorcing or separating. While some marriages simply don’t work and won’t no matter what, an equal number suffer from misunderstandings, lack of trust and numerous other obstacles; if you have children, these problems are compounded. Marriage counseling can be an excellent option for figuring out one, if you can save your marriage, and two, how to handle questions, concerns and problems your children may have.

Marriagemax.com is an alternative marriage advice website created and run by relationship expert Mort Fertel since 2004. It covers a broad range of marriage topics and offers advice and ideas for helping out your marriage.

Kausik Dutta
http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/top-five-reasons-to-get-marriage-counseling-109237.html

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There are 12 barriers to relationship communication that will strain the relationship to breaking point.Thomas Gordon came up with these 12  roadblocks if you want satisfying and fulfilling relationships.

1. Criticizing. Criticism involves judgmental states that usually put down a person. “Don’t do it that way”, “You’re wrong”, “You’re not very good at…”, and “You need to lose weight” are a few simple criticisms. We think criticism changes people, though it only reveals our own problems. Kill this barrier before it kills your relationships.

2. Labeling. Labels are names. An extreme form of labels is name-calling. “You’re a jerk”, “You are silly”, and “I think you’re mean” are some examples of labeling. Labeling is a barrier to communication because it categorizes people. It assumes people to have characteristics and destroys uniqueness that makes an enjoyable relationship.

3. Diagnosing. A diagnosis is one of the more complex barriers to effective communication. It involves reading into a person’s behavior. I call it “playing the amateur psychologist”. Some examples of the diagnosing barrier are: “You’re just jealous about…”, “You need to be happier”, and “Stop trying to antagonize me.”

4. Praising. People are always surprised when they hear praise is a communication barrier. Praise is not always a barrier because it depends on how it is given. Praise is so often poorly given as it makes people – especially children – dependent on receiving verbal rewards. “You’re a good boy”, “I love you for doing what you did”, and “You’re a lovely person because you think about me”. Learn to praise a person’s behavior, and be specific, to avoid evaluative praise and making people dependent on your praise.

5. Ordering. Orders are controlling statements to get people doing something. They are akin to dictatorship. “Go wash the dishes”, “Stop complaining”, and “Stop fighting with…” Orders force people to comply based on authoritative power. The result is resistant change and resentment. It is very common for people to rebel against orders so they regain their freedom. Psychologists call this “psychological reactance”
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6. Threatening. A threat is similar to an order, except it has emphasis on punishment. “Go wash the dishes or I won’t cook for you tomorrow night”, “Stop complaining or you’ll be sent to your room”, “Stop fighting with… or you’ll be grounded”. Just like orders, threats create fear, temporary results, and resentment – while killing a relationship.

7. Questioning. How could questioning be a barrier to effective communication? Like praise, there are types of questioning that make it a roadblock to good relationship communication. Rhetorical questions is one common form of poor questioning. Examples include, “Why do you disobey me?” “Why do you always do wrong?” and “What about my needs? You constantly ignore them.”

These are 7 of 12 barriers to effective communication. When you overcome all 12 barriers to effective communication, you communicate openly, intimately, understand you’re partner – all the while creating change in your relationships.

By Joshua Ubergang

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April 17th, 2009

Professor Benjamin Karney lecture on families and couples. This course examines relationships and their connection to individual psychopathology, marital discord, and family disruption.

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Save Your Marriage Tip:

Michele Weiner-Davis offers advice to all of the women out there who have trouble communicating with their husbands. By delivering conversation topics more concisely you’ll more effectively keep your husband’s attention. Some times it’s the simple things that can save your marriage.

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Pegging, which is also referred to as “bend over boyfriend” or BOB, may not be everyone’s cup of tea. But for couples in the Swinging lifestyle who have a solid foundation of good communication and are seeking a new avenue to explore their sexual activities. Pegging offers a new world of stimulation for him and a sweet opportunity for role play and power exchange for either partners. There’s really not one specific way to peg as long as you follow the basics of safe anal play. This is a step-by-stepguide which may help.
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The first thing you do is talk first. Anal penetration of any kind requires a lot of communication. You can experience perfectly safe anal penetration without pain as long as you listen to your body and if you’re feeling pain or discomfort you need to slow down, add more lube, and perhaps try a different position or form of stimulation. You need to be able to talk first. Here are some tips on how to talk to your partner.

You should become comfortable with anal penetration. If you’re a guy looking to get pegged it may not be quite the best idea to make that your first experience with anal penetration. You should basically start on you own. Before investing in toys and strap on gear, you should just start off with your own fingers (be sure to use lots of water based lubricant and latex or non-latex gloves). Exploring on your own will also make you a better receptive partner.

Beyond male anal pleasure, there is a lot to explore in the area of role reversals with BOB. For both partners turning the tables can be a whole new world. It’s a chance to explore the ways you feel masculine and feminine, bottom and top. It’s a chance to attend to your partner in a completely different way. The fact is that in mainstream Western culture “sex” still means man-on-top-penis-in-vagina-over-in-four-and-a-half-minutes sex. Bend Over Boyfriend is a radical sex act, and it comes with deep potential for growth and really hot sex!

If you’re the female partner make certain you not only understand the basics of safe anal play but you are also familiar with male sexual anatomy (particularly the anus and the prostate gland). A wonderful way to get a crash course on what he likes to do is asking him to pleasure himself and allowing you watch. Not everyone is comfortable with this and one way to reduce self-consciousness is having him wear a blindfold. This should make it easier for him to slip into his imagination and you can feel free to get as up-close as you like.

Looking for a good quality strap-on and the right dildo is key to a positive pegging experience. The female partner should choose the strap-on. There are several things to consider in choosing the correct strap on dildo harness. Even as important, is finding a dildo that’s the right size and shape. There are some  things you should look for in a dildo for pegging. Make sure you also have plenty of water-based lubricant on hand as well as gloves And depending on your dildo material, some condoms.

Pegging offers the wonderful potential for intense role play and gender bending experiences. Many people are pleasantly surprised by how much they are turned on by the feeling and how “real” it feels. For most people the first time they wear a strap-on, it feels awkward and strange. Once you’ve purcahsed your gear try it on by yourself. A fun way is to try it on underneath your clothing and see what it feels like to undress with your strap-on. You can also try moving around, dancing, even masturbate all with your strap-on in place.

Don’t try rushing into any pegging. Anal penetration can never be rushed so if you’re planning on some pegging, scheduling in a lot of warm up time is a good idea. Make sure both of you are really turned on, relaxed and ready. Many couples will begin with penile-vaginal intercourse and then alternate to pegging. There’s actually no one correct way to do it, just be aware that it’s not like porn.

Once you’ve explored the outside of his anus. Get him ready gently put the tip of the dildo up against the anus. Never try to push it or force it in, instead let him relax and allow him to take the dildo in. Once the dildo is inside him try to avoid fast movements in the beginning. Pay attention to the movements of his body and move along with him. The dildo might slip out but don’t pull it out quickly.

Never forget to add the lube and keep a bottle of lubricant handy. Be sure to keep adding more lube to the dildo as you are playing. If the dildo is partially inside him you can apply lube to the part which isn’t. When the dildo is fully out of his body, apply more to the tip and the entire shaft.

One way of allowing him to determine the speed of strokes is to get him to move and at first, you stay relatively still. If you are  new to pegging this is a safe way to begin and it allows you time to watch how he moves and what he likes. You can also remind him that he can always go slower or faster all he has to do is ask.

Try to always follow his lead, but start slow. This doesn’t mean you’re off the hook. Once he’s accustomed with the dildo it’s your turn to start taking control. You can begin with slow and shallow penetration. As you both are getting into it and are more comfortable. You can always experiment with deeper thrusting action, but try to pay attention to what he saying and what his body is telling you.

Also, don’t try and forget about his other body parts.
The central focus of pegging may be on the bum. But it’s still considered sex play and if you can bring in other parts of his body it would be all the better. Many men lose their erections when they are penetrated anally but this has nothing to do with them not being turned on or they don’t want to be touched more. You can experiment by stroking his cock or running your hands and fingers on other parts of his body.

Despite the long association of the rear-entry position with anal sex there are many sex positions which will work equally as well for anal sex or pegging.

After you have gotten the hang of the basics, you can explore with different positions. Try having him lay on his back with his legs in the air or over your shoulders. Put a pillow under his butt to lift it off the bed a bit. In this position, you can kiss him, squeeze his nipples or stroke his dick. Or lay back yourself and have him get on top and ride your dick like the Pony Express.

If he really gets into being dominated, you could try spanking him first to make his ass warm and eager for your entry. You can also use additional sex toys for variety. Prep him for plowing with a butt plug, or make him wear a cock ring to keep him hard and delay his ejaculation. The possibilities are limited only by your imagination. So be bold, be creative, and be in charge of your fantasies.

I have become quite the fan of pegging my boyfriend and he enjoys it immensely. We have discovered other folks in the swinging lifestyle engage in this activity. If you’re a female, you should consider discussing it with your partner is this is something you want to do. If you’re the guy and are interested, maybe you can bring it up to your girlfriend. Remember, the key is communication and you might be surprised as to what doors it might open up for you!

Janet Sheridan
http://www.articlesbase.com/sexuality-articles/pegging-doing-your-boyfriend-with-a-strap-on-700141.html

When you are in any kind of relationship and the ex lover or spouse still has a presence in the other person’s life, it can be hard. This is especially true if the ex is causing a problem with the new relationship that is going on. Many people who have to deal with this problem in their life and they have to think of ways that will help them get through it.

When you truly love someone, you will find ways to work around just about any problem. This will also include the negative influence of your husband’s ex wife. You will have to come to terms with the problem and together you will have to come up with a solution that will make everyone involved happy and able to go on with his or her life.

If an ex wife is trying to make your relationship sour with your husband, you will have to do something about it. You can choose to ignore the problem and not worry about it, but this is not a very realistic idea. Most people that are in this situation will have to eventually say something and do something about it. You cannot just sit back and let someone try and ruin your relationship.

The first thing that you need to do when your husband’s ex wife is having a negative effect on your relationship is to discuss it with your husband. You have to make sure that he knows how you feel. You may want to ask him to talk to the ex wife and see if she would step back for a while. This may not always be a good idea depending on how well the ex and the husband get along.

If the husband has no luck talking to the ex wife, you may have to take care of this problem on your own. There is no sense in threatening the woman. Violence is never the answer and it will only get you in a bigger mess than what you are already in. If the women are making your marriage stressed, you should tell her how you feel.

If she has no remorse and does not agree to leave you alone, you should simple wipe her out. Block her phone number from your home phone, do not accept her mail or any other phone calls and try to ignore her completely.

Some times the ex wife is not even physically in the relationship. There are some cases where there is just so much tension from the past that it is causing some problems in your marriage now. If your husband’s ex wife was mean or had a bad temper, you may see that your relationship with your husband now is stressed. He may feel that the same thing is going to happen with you. Maybe other issues he had to deal with while he was married to the ex have to be sorted out. If so, your husband may not have worked through those problems and now it is hard for him to move on with you.

You need to work through these problems with your husband. Communication is the key to keeping your marriage on track and for going in the right direction. You want to make sure that you are keeping the lines of communication open so that you can discuss freely and problems that you are having. Talk to him about the negative effects that the ex wife has placed upon your marriage. Find out if there is anything that can be changed to make the situation more comfortable for both of you in the marriage.

If the talking is not working, you may have to take the next step and that may be counseling. This is something that you can do to make try and fix the problem. You have to be ready to go the distance when you are married and if that means that you have to seek counseling, so be it. There is nothing to be ashamed of and you may find that you have lasting results that can better your marriage all around.

The main thing to do when your husband’s ex wife is having a negative effect on your relationship is to talk about it. Sort through the details and try and come up with new ideas to make the problem go away or to be resolved.

You have to figure out a way for everyone to get along so that there can be peace with everyone. This is of course especially true if there are children involved. All of the appropriate steps have to be taken to ensure that the children are not bothered by this problem that the adults are having.

Mailcucan
http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/how-to-deal-with-the-negative-influence-of-your-husbands-exwife-on-your-relationship-73289.html