but I think that if the sex aint good then communication goes out the window if sex isnt compatible between the two. What do you think?
For betrayedhusband this is not a complaint and I never said that me and my husband arent compatible. I am simply stating a belief of mine that pretty much to me is you gotta have one to go with the other. I wanted to know what everyone else thought, this is not a complaint about our compatibility or communication
Hmmm well, personally, I agree with you that the sex has to be compatible, and kept intereting and exciting. I think that is where communications comes in too. good communications between a couple can make sure that the sex is satisfying for both, and if not, the communications can be the bridge to find what each partner needs to ensure that the sex life is kept alive and enjoyable. Make sense? just saying.
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Hmmm well, personally, I agree with you that the sex has to be compatible, and kept intereting and exciting. I think that is where communications comes in too. good communications between a couple can make sure that the sex is satisfying for both, and if not, the communications can be the bridge to find what each partner needs to ensure that the sex life is kept alive and enjoyable. Make sense? just saying.
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My philosophy is this: Sex is nothing but icing on the cake. If the cake is not rich and flavorful, then the icing is but a cover. In other words, sex doesnt make a marriage. Communication, love and trust do. I would rather be in a relationship that had those things and bad sex than in a relationship that didnt and had good. Make sense?
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Yeah, sex is fun, but marriage is about long term, and when you're both in your 70's, sex isn't going to be as appealing. Communication compatibility is just as important as physical attraction, if not more.
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im not really into sex like that u know like to where if i dont have it id die but communication is everything to my r our relationship!!! but dont get me wrong he is good and well hung but its just not an issue it was talkin and gettin to know each other that made us happy and instantly in love!!! communication is the key to a relationship and marriage because with out it how would u work out ur problems??? with his d***??? what if debt comes up how u gonna work that out with p****? i dont think so u have to communicate to make life work… good luck and good nite!!!!
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yes that's why my marriage sucks right now
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Communication is the foundation.
If you have open lines of communication where you can lovingly and respectfully share what you want in the bedroom (or on top the fridge) with your spouse, and you have a spouse that really listens and treats your wants and desires as valid you can work on any issue.
You frame your "complaint" in a somewhat disrespectful fashion. Labeling your sex life as "isnt compatible" is a bit of a disrespectful judgment. Your statement appears to speak for both, as compatibility.
So the first communication lesson is to phrase things in a fashion that doesn't attempt to speak for the other, such as:
"I would like sex more frequently."
"I would like to try _________ when we are making love."
"I would like…"
This way, you make it about what you want and not automatically labelling it, which will put your partner of the defensive if you word it the way you word it here.
However, I think I would start with asking what desires you spouse has and what are you doing to make that happen?
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Nah communication is definetly the most important thing here. And if you have that you van make the sex better. Try a few new things and if he accidentaly does something good in the sack, let him know how good it/he was. It will make him do it more often and try other ways to get that reaction
Tell me how it worked out for ya ok?
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Both are equally important along with trust , respect , devotion , etc.
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Communication , trust, and love are FAR MORE IMPORTANT than sex.
If I had communication, trust & love in my marriage, without sex, I think the marriage could still survive.
If I had the worlds greatest sex in my marriage, but NOT communication, trust & love, I am 100% certain, the marriage would fail.
Sex is a wonderful gift in a marriage, but it is soooooo far from the "most" important thing.
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Sex is fantastic and great but its just icing on the cake.
This is especially true if you are sexually compatible but the intimacy is gone! its like getting an egg thats only a shell and nothing inside of it. you'd go hungry then. We;; there are a lot of marriages like that. They are starving to death for true intimacy.
many men will have this fight with their wife and then after sex think that the issue is resolved because you got so physically close.
Nine times out of ten though if the sex is not good then somewhere else along the line there is a problem in the relationship. sex merely reflects partially the condition of the marriage at times. I know when my ex wife and I were fighting and I could not relate to her and she was all a huge mystery and mad and angry, I didn't know when to touch her or when not to so I abstained just to be safe. I couldn't make heads or tails on how to decifer it. but the issues went unresolved. That was the problem right there.
Communication is absolutly key!
Without that, your marriage is doomed!
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