Have you ever considered the Big C Commitment in your relationship?
Have you wondered what one simple word is that each of us has to carry out in the relationship? The word is commitment. I have seen many couples have been executing their commitment in their relationship, ensuring that they have contributed something. Sometimes, in relationship, some couple can be much occupied in their own stuff that they cannot have much time to commit with each other. Commitment can be very challenging to some couples because some of them are pretty new to committing in relationship and they generally get lost somewhere. They really wish to stay happily together, so they have to consider this big C – commitment in their relationship. With a huge commitment made, there is always a harvest in return. So, for those readers who are reading this piece of article, do not feel very awkward to yourself.
Many people are afraid of the big C – also known as commitment. However, without commitment many relationships are doomed for failure. Some people are so afraid of committing in a relationship that they actually have a phobia about it. Many relationships end suddenly because one partner is ready for a commitment and the other is not. Whether you are thinking about a marriage commitment or just interested in dating your partner exclusively, commitment is a big step and one that both partners need to agree upon before taking together. If one party is committed and the other is not, a troubled journey lies ahead. Here are some issues to take into consideration to help determine if you are ready for a commitment.
First, you need to ask yourself if your partner is your number one priority in life. Do you find that you think constantly about your relationship and make plans for both you and your partner? If you are only thinking about yourself, then you may not be ready for a commitment. However, if you find that any time you need to make a major decision you wonder how your partner would feel about it, then you may be on the road to a monogamous future.
Another area to consider is how you handle troublesome times in your relationship. When arguments or difficulties arise, do you and your partner tend to work things out in a calm manner? Or do you secretly just wish you could end the relationship. If you don’t feel that you have the desire to work through issues now, it is unlikely that will change if you become a committed couple. Working through difficulties together is a vital component of a committed relationship.
What is the overall tone of your relationship? Would you consider your relationship to be rocky, stable, up and down, exciting, or boring? Do you and your partner communicate well? Do you feel that he listens and understands what you have to say and vice versa? Communication is extremely vital to the future of any relationship and if you have communication issues now, you can only expect them to get worse over time.
Also, how do you react when you see an attractive guy or girl? Does your eye immediately wander? Do you wonder if you would be better suited with them? Or do you instantly think of your partner and reflect on how satisfied you are with him or her. If you find that you are content with your partner, you may be ready to commit.
Another question to ask you is this, “What does your gut instinct say?” Does your heart tell you that this is the one for you? Do you believe that you could spend the rest of your life with this person? Trusting your gut instinct is a great way to determine if you are ready for the big C. Your mind may play games on you, logic may interfere, but what is your heart telling you. If you believe that you could love this person forever, then why not give it a shot. Don’t let a fear of commitment rob you from the future joy you could have with your partner.
Indeed, life is short. Don’t let another day go by without taking a chance on happiness. You will never know until you try, so remember to make a move today. It can change or affect the rest of your life, therefore, at the very least, you can try to come out something for your ex love partner during your weekend plans. With a little practice, perseverance and patience, I believe that your relationship could be enhanced with the tips that I have shared earlier. If you have faced any problems with your loved ones, do not hesitate to visit this piece of article again.
I really have a strong belief that if you can understand what I have explained and applied what you have learnt from this piece of article, your problems can be eventually solved and your making up relationship can become more stable and stronger. I wish all the best for your making up relationship with your partner. Do always remember to spread word of mouth to your fellow friends for supporting the decision of having making up than breaking up.
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Question about relationship… I want to go to a hole and hide?
The scenario: We’ve been together 13 months and our relationship, I would describe as quite serious. We discuss marriage and deeper commitment (he discusses it more).
Now beau’s behaviour over the last week made me beilieve, at that moment — that he wanted to break-up with me. He was in a bad mood, non-responsive etc. I asked him whether he was "considering breaking-up with me", which he Knew his behaviour was concerning me, in a partner sense.
Question: would it be acceptable to ask ur partner whether he or she wants to be with u, or still loves u IF he’s been known to do the same on occasion and his behaviour gave u concern to believe he might ?
Now… I don’t do this on all occasions he is in a bad mood. I have never asked him about us "breaking-up", it’s just on this occasion his behaviour was more than his "normal mood" and went longer.
Considering we are in a relationship, should I be able to discuss this with him and not Fear that I look "insecure"? What would be insecure?
Please be advised I do not constantly ask him this, I have never asked him those questions. This was a one off moment. He is not in a bad mood because I am insecure, as he said to me it’s nothing I’ve done and he’s thought about it. Nor has he ever told me I am insecure, and he is honest.
And yes, I did try to coax out of him what was wrong and that’s where I was met with a brick-wall. I asked him what I did because I’ve never seen him that way, and felt quite pushed aside — hence i asked him. And, at the stage I asked him this he was feeling a bit better. I guess I just needed to know what was driving his behaviour ? And plus, he didn’t care that it was hurting and he basically dismissed my feelings… When he doesn’t do this normally. I had no other choice but to think that.
When I asked him he said "is that the reason you were crying, because you thought we’d break-up"? I said "no, not necessarily. I just went convinced that I wasn’t the source of your angst because I could feel the tension from you".
Now I feel like the biggest idiot on earth and he probably thinks I am insecure, despite this being a one-off in good reason. Besides, I was honest with him. I told him I don’t "feel the love" this week.
I should probably mention that he’s done that whole "I never want to lose you" panic with me and, needless to say he is the one always telling me how wonderful I am and how lucky he is, not vise versa.
Bonus question: does your partner have to say "I love you" everyday to mean it?
no he/she doesn’t have to say i love you everyday to mean it. it’s about showing it not just saying it. as for what you asked him no you don’t sound insecure as this is 1st time you have asked and you had cause for concern or felt you did. after being with my partner for over 13yrs now he has moods where he doesn’t speak and i could ask him a thousand times if he was ok but there’s no one home best asking if they ok and need anything once shows you care and then leave well alone trust me he will open up eventually.
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Hello,
I think you are worrying about this far too much. Your partner was not himself and distant, you wanted to know why. If we cant show our partners moments of weakness and insecurity there’s a problem. Maybe next time just tell him he seems upset/stressed about something and your concerned. Many times it will have nothing to do with you – could be a friend, family, job …
If you don’t want to seem insecure then don’t automatically assume the only thing that could upset him is your relationship.
It takes time to learn all the little quirks about each other – give it time.
Take care & good luck
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When two people love one another, it is all in their daily actions. Yes, you do say as you feel moved, "I love you" Those words move mountains and gives you the strength to go out into the world to concur it! When you know that someone loves you and only you, you are able to finish your race and begin another one right after wards! A couple that really understands it takes give and take to make a relationship work, better yet, whatever you put in your relationship, you will get out of it. If you are honest, respectfully and showing compassion towards that persons feels, you won’t hurt the one you love, you just can’t. But if one loses him or herself in the process of growing into the relationship, one will find themselves growing apart and doing things that doesn’t involve the other. Thoughts be made going around about not really being happy, etc. But if you are not comfortable in asking him where he stands, he should know this is tearing you apart. He has to know this is hurting you then himself. He needs to talk to you about what is going on with him. Something is really wrong with him and he needs to tell you regardless of what it is. You can’t live this way, no one can. You are not insecure, your heart is telling you that something is wrong and he knows it. Maybe he doesn’t have the strength to tell you to your face, maybe text him and he’ll answer that way but you guys need to put all your cards on the table. By the way, please do not get married until you guys seek council. He isn’t ready to move forward with this relationship and getting married will only make matters worse for you in the end. Marriage is an agreement on both ends, not just making one person happy, but the both of you. You will be going against the world and who else will be at your side then your spouse?
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