Marriage Communication and The Top Five Reasons to Get Marriage Counseling

 

Whether you’re having problems in your marriage or just want to have better mariage communication,  marriage counseling can be one  way to do this. A counselor can provide an objective ear and advice for couples who are struggling in their relationship and even for those who are doing fine, but want to ensure they don’t encounter any deep-seated problems in the future.

There are a number of reasons to get marriage communication skills; in this article we’ll look at five of the top reasons you may want to improve your marriage communication skills, or at least consider couples counseling.

One, marriage counseling can not only acts as a form of healing for troubled marriages; it can also act as a preventative measure for many large problems that may loom in a couple’s future. Whether or not you feel you need it, marriage counseling is worth looking into if you’re having problems in your marriage, or even if you’re a couple simply looking to cement your relationship more before you marry.

Two, marriage counseling can help couples find a number of workable solutions that may help their marriage. From infidelity to simple communication problems, a good therapist can help you figure out how to beat the odds and begin to heal your relationship.

Three, it is always helpful to have the ear of someone objective and distanced from your problems. Friends and family members may make good comforters and sounding boards, but they are necessarily biased. An objective therapist sees both sides and attempts to work with you to reconcile them.

Four, you married the person you’re with because you loved them; no matter what they’ve done, it’s worth trying at least once to save. To this affect, a therapist can help you determine how much your vested, and indeed, whether you truly want to be with or without them.

Five, if you have children, getting better marriage communication skill offers an alternative option to immediately divorcing or separating. While some marriages simply don’t work and won’t no matter what, an equal number suffer from misunderstandings, lack of trust and numerous other obstacles; if you have children, these problems are compounded. Marriage counseling can be an excellent option for figuring out one, if you can save your marriage, and two, how to handle questions, concerns and problems your children may have.

Marriagemax.com is an alternative marriage advice website created and run by relationship expert Mort Fertel since 2004. It covers a broad range of marriage topics and offers advice and ideas for helping out your marriage.

Kausik Dutta
http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/top-five-reasons-to-get-marriage-counseling-109237.html

 

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Better Communication Skills? or A Necessary Paradigm Shift

I came across a video on YouTube today.

Sounds ordinary enough…?

Or is there more to this email ?

What’s the…underlying reason that caused me to sit down and write to you today…

Well, it’s like this…

For a long time I have avoided being political. ( mainly as a result of being well and truly stomped on by the system in the past  whenever I was saying stuff they didn’t like.) 

More details later.

( maybe…!)

Just so you know, one of my deepest beliefs and values is that we MUST learn to cooperate better if we are to survive as a species.

Please note the use of the word survive here. And NO this is not just some impassioned plea to save the whales or any other single species.

This goes much deeper.
It’s all about the deep psychological shifts that humankind needs to make to get to the next level.

We have a behaviour problem here on planet Earth.
And I hate to be the one to tell you but it’s also a choice problem.

As a species and as individuals, both you and me chose a behaviour that was damaging to our home. Our planet.
And for a while we chose to ignore that because we were told that government and the financial system has the answers.

And we believed them.

BUT the truth is…

Our current behaviour is not useful for the long term sustainability of life. 

Human life on planet earth is an option.

That’s all it is. An option.

You are an evolutionary choice…

That’s tough to consider but I believe it’s true nonetheless.

You are at a decision point in your life.

We all are.

Nature doesn’t care for your future here any more than it cared for the future of T Rex.

The difference between you and T Rex

is that you have a brain that’s capable of creating choice AND you are still here.

NOW

at the moment we have systems in place that we use to run or manage our environment.

These systems are set up on the basis of competition, in just such a way, that there is inequality.

That inequality results in over 1 billion people living in poverty and starvation.

BUT the problem isn’t a lack of food to feed them with…

It goes deeper…

It’s all about beliefs and your psychology. The shift from a competition to a cooperation mindset.

And cooperation goes beyond mere sharing and management of resources.

Cooperation is and must become humanity’s belief system. A value system.

A way of being for all of humanity, regardless  of race, creed, financial status or any other BS idea you got taught about why other people are different to you.

Cooperation needs to be part of our conscious psychology as a species.

Think about the times when you are not happy…

Aren’t they almost always times when there is a conflict going on.

It is your responsibility to take control of your environment which starts with your internal environment.

Your beliefs about what is possible.

Control of your environment includes controlling what you think, feel and do.

Despite what you may have been told… you… are the only person who has control over your beliefs and thoughts.

Those who tell you that you have no choice… USUALLY HAVE A VESTED INTEREST in keeping you right where you are !.

(“That’s your place.You better get used to it”.  “Hey we were always poor, dumb, downtrodden”. “Your side of the family was/ is radee radee radee”,)
All of the above are just BELIEFS.

Other peoples beliefs… about what is right for you. And you do not have to accept their beliefs.
I mean it positively flies in the face of what’s written in the Constitution.

You have choice about what you will believe. What you can believe.

Yeah, I know it may sound difficult . But that’s just another belief.

Another idea that YOU have about…

taking control of your own thoughts. Taking control of your life and destiny.

Taking control of your environment

But if Tony Robbins can do it then so can you!

If I can do it, so can you ! 

Doesn’t mean you have to be a total master at it straight away.

It just means that you’re willing to believe it’s posssible to change what you believe.

If you are one of the few who don’t think it’s possible to change what you believe, from whatever you currently hold in your mind to something else, please do not read any further.

Instead consider…

what causes you to have such a limiting view.

Who or what told you to  believe that you are powerless over your own mind and where THAT belief came from for them.

You can always hit the back button / unsubscribe.

I will be upset, knowing that yet another human being just gave up on possibility, themself and the whole future of the planet.

The rest of us will ask ourselves the question  “Is there something more we can do to assist ?”

If you truly believe you are incapable of changing that one tiny belief don’t even bother to get out of bed tomorrow.

Why waste energy ?

Speaking of which, for those of you who are still here with me. ..What does get you out of bed ?

What is the motivator for you that shifts you from that warmth and comfort to whatever you do when you get up.?

Once you are aware of that then you have tapped into the most powerful motivation on the planet.

So, spend some time really getting in touch with WHY you do what you do.

I have considered for some time how do we transition from where we are now to where we need to be as a species.

As part of our ecosystem.

We are after all, at a very basic level,  just another item in the intricate biological soup that makes up life on this planet.

You of course are also infinite possibility in evolutionary motion.

You may be curious about what this all has to do with communication.

You can also be curious about How you can create the levels of cooperation needed to achieve survival.

Why did I just mentioned survival again?

Did you ever consider that perhaps, getting cooperation is the whole reason that you communicate in the first place ?

I mean why else did we go to all that troube of creating and refining language if not to get better cooperation with others ?

We are a social species and social implies cooperation and to do that we have to communicate clearly.

Think about it ! If you don’t want or need something you don’t speak or wave or do anything else to communicate with others.

Even a smile can fulfill the need to comfort or reassure another person (or yourself.)

So while you’re thinking about what moves you from your bed every day I’d also invite you to really consider what results you want to get from communicating.

Consider also if your communication is getting you the results that you really really want. The environment you want. Internally and externally.

And if the answer is YES then
Watch…

If on the other hand the answer is NO then
Watch…

And by the time you have completed watching this you will know why I want you to be motivated. Why you need to be motivated. And most important of all. Why you need to believe that change is possible….

 

The tools for creating the necessary upgrades in awareness are about to come out of the lab here…

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